So, I was going through old emails, and found something mighty hilarious (Well, it is hilarious. At least for me!)
Following is what I wrote when I first applied for membership in content team of The WebMasters =P They asked me to write something…anything. This is what I came up with. *sighs*
Well, they rejected me =P
Honestly, now that I look upon it, I don’t get a single word out of the philosophy that I’ve gone on and on about in this post =P So yeah, I don’t blame those poor guys.
As of now, the present – I am in the position where I give such tasks to poor kids wanting to join TWM. LOL. Hahaha. =D
Behold…
Expectations, what are they? It is, perhaps, a very strange emotion that rules almost everyone’s life. It is a belief that tells us that even the most unlikely of events may well take place. And when things don’t turn out to be the way we had perceived, dejection and disappointment enter the picture.
People have numerous expectations from their lives, from their loved ones, from their careers, and from themselves. There is a common perception that one should never expect too much because eventually things might end up drastically. What I wonder is that whether having expectations is as bad as people claim it to be.
I believe that expecting something from life is equivalent to expecting something from yourself, because we are the ones responsible for anything that happens to us. It is wrong not to expect much from life if you do not have the urge, the motivation or the desire to achieve it. Many people often face failure when their expectations go overboard. That leads to sadness, pain and misery. Many give up but there are some who take a step back and make a running leap. Such people know how to make smart choices in life.
False expectations only crop up when one gets deeply attached to a specific goal. For instance, at a workplace, a person works hard for a raise in his salary. If he puts all his effort in his job but at the same time he doesn’t get emotionally involved in that work, then the fact that he excels or not wouldn’t make a difference to him. That is known as “detached attachment”.
Expectations are different when it comes to relationships and social behaviour. In this area of our life, people tend to behave quite immoderately. They literally ‘cling’ to their friends or loved ones and forget that everyone needs some space. In such cases what might seem a minutest thing to one person can be a phenomenal deed for another. And when things turn out to be otherwise, the blame goes on to the ‘trust’ factor. Trust is the primary ingredient any relationship. This trust takes a lot of time to build up but it only takes a fraction of insecurity for its intensity to decline.
The bottom line is that expecting something from others is okay as long as one has contributed sincerely too. Believing in yourself is the key to a positive outcome. Do expect things from others but do not go overboard in your feelings because, “Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy”.
Dated: 27/8/07.
Yawning already? Good.
